Christian Monks has been a valued member of the Cameray team since 2008. He is both a Registered Clinical Counsellor and Registered Art Therapist, and he brings his engaging personality and his skills in Mindfulness, EMDR, AEDP, and Art Therapy to his work as a Child and Family Counsellor in the Counselling Program. He has also specialized in working with children under 12 with sexually intrusive behaviours in our SHIP program, and has consulted with the community on this issue. We are excited to announce that Christian will now be providing clinical supervision and program coordination and management, alongside Michele Holding, as our Counselling Program expands. We will miss him greatly on the front line, but are so happy to benefit from his skills in this new role!
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Cameray’s Annual General Meeting will be held on Monday, March 13th, 2017 at 6:00pm at #203 – 5623 Imperial Street, Burnaby. The annual fee is still $3.00. Please rsvp by March 9th if you will be attending at firstname.lastname@example.org or 604-436-9449 Ext. 276
Working with Syrian Refugee Families
Cameray Child and Family Services has had the privilege to collaborate with the New Westminster School District and New Westminster Child and Youth Mental Health to create a program for working with refugee families from Syria. This was all made possible because United Way of Lower Mainland has dedicated funding for helping Syrian refugee families settle in the Lower Mainland. Through this funding our organizations were able to put together a training led by Dr. Sarina Kot for over 50 New Westminster school staff and service providers to learn how to recognize settlement issues versus symptoms of trauma.
Have you ever felt alone in your struggle? Do you feel like no one understands? Cameray Child and Family Services is here to help by offering a variety of services including group therapy. Group therapy may be a way for you to connect with others while getting the support and information you need to face difficult situations. According to PsychCentral here are 5 Benefits of Group Therapy:
- Group therapy helps you realize you’re not alone.
According to Irvin D. Yalom, M.D., in The Theory and Practice of Group Psychotherapy, “Many patients enter therapy with the disquieting thought that they are unique in their wretchedness, that they alone have certain frightening or unacceptable problems, thoughts, impulses and fantasies.”
While it’s true that each of us is unique and may have unique circumstances, none of us is alone in our struggles.
For instance, for years, Yalom has asked members of a process group to anonymously write down the one thing they wouldn’t share in the group. Members included medical students, psychiatric residents, nurses, psychiatric technicians and Peace Corps volunteers.
The secrets were “startlingly similar,” he writes. Several themes emerged: People believed they were inadequate and incompetent. They felt alienated and worried they couldn’t care for or love another person. And the third category included some kind of sexual secret.
As Ali Miller, MFT, said, group therapy reduces isolation and alienation. It increases the sense that “we’re all in this together,” and normalizes suffering, she said.
- Group therapy facilitates giving and receiving support.
One misconception about group therapy is that members take turns receiving individual therapy from the therapist while others observe, Miller said.
However, as she clarified, members are actually encouraged to turn to each other for support, feedback and connection, instead of getting all of that from the clinician.
Miller shared this example: One member feels isolated and lonely, and doesn’t know how to make friends. The group supports her by listening when she talks and engaging with her the entire session, which by itself decreases her sense of isolation. The members also share their own experiences. And they share how they’ve navigated loneliness or overcome isolation, “offering hope, inspiration, encouragement, and sometimes suggestions.”
- Group therapy helps you find your “voice.”
Miller defined voice as “becoming aware of your own feelings and needs and expressing them.” In her groups, she strongly encourages members to notice how they’re feeling throughout the session and to talk about it.
“Many people don’t know how they are feeling when they are interacting with other people, because it can be challenging to be self-connected when connecting with others. This is one of the things I focus on most in my groups.”
- Group therapy helps you relate to others (and yourself) in healthier ways.
Often people don’t understand why their relationships aren’t working, said Judye Hess, Ph.D, who has taught Group Dynamics at the California Institute for Integral Studies in San Francisco. “In the safe atmosphere of group therapy, members can get honest feedback from others who care about them to one degree or another.”
For instance, according to Hess, members might say: “I would like to get closer to you, but you always seem to keep me at a distance,” “It bugs me that you are always the one to break the silence” and “When you are sharing something, I get impatient, because it takes so long for you to get to the point.”
Groups provide the opportunity to see just how people relate to others in the moment, and how they relate to themselves, Miller said.
- Group therapy provides a safety net.
In Miller’s groups, called “Authentic Connection,” members struggle with being authentic and speaking up for themselves in their lives. They practice these skills in the group, and as they do, their confidence for practicing them outside the group grows.
They’re also able to carry the groups’ support with them between sessions, making it easier to take risks, she said. “[I]f you know you can report back to a group of people who care about you and will listen to your experience, you tend to feel braver. Knowing someone will catch you if you fall emboldens you to leap. The group becomes the net.”
In addition to strengthening your relationship skills, reducing isolation and finding your voice, group therapy also is especially valuable for individuals dealing with depression, social anxiety and life transitions, Miller said.
Cameray Child and Family Services continues to offer a range of group therapy through our Parent Support Program (PSP) and Counselling Program. PSP provides group support to parents of children under 5, and releases there calendar of groups on a monthly basis. For October 2016 calendar please click here.
The Counselling Program currently offers Connect Parent Group and psychoeducational groups for pre-teen and teen survivors of sexual abuse. If you are interested in hearing more information about our groups please contact your counsellor or make a referral.
No Drama Discipline: The No Drama Connection
Based on book: No Drama Discipline, By Dr. Daniel J. Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne Bryson
You are not alone if you feel at a loss when it comes to getting your kids to argue less, listen or speak more respectfully. It is hard to know how to discipline our kids. All often they do something wrong, we get mad, they get upset and the cycle continues. Here’s a new way to approach situations from Dr. Siegel’s book “No Drama Discipline.” These strategies help parents and kids deal with difficult situation in a healthy way and can lead to strengthening their relationship and emotional connection.Continue reading